What If God Was One of Us...

When things go wrong, As they sometimes will, When the road you're trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low and the debts are high, And you want to smile, But you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit Rest if you must, But Don't You Quit!
Life is strange with its twists and turns, As every one of us sometimes learns, And many a person turns about When he might have won had he stuck it out. Don't give up through the pace seems slow You may succeed with another blow.
Often the struggler has given up When he might have captured the victor's cup And he learned too late when the night came down How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, And you never
can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems afar So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit It's when things seem the worst That You Mustn't Quit!
~Unknown~

Things that  Daddy liked  to do

Golfing with the guys 

He's a  big fan of Nascar

He driver was

Dale Sr. # 3

Football

and his team was

Dallas Cowboys!

And  of course the  New York Yankees

Well of course He loved the color purple,
yes He had a purple bowling ball & bag!
 

Stepfathers

Stepfathers are a rare breed
They are called upon to do the tough deeds
Saying "no" to the children when Mom wants to stay clean
Leaving you as the bad guy and also called mean.
No one stops to think of the love you have for the child
It's been going unnoticed for a long while
It's time we speak up and let others know
The children are also ours and we love them so.
In tough times moms reply "This is my child"
We don't retaliate because that's not our style
Yes, Mom, you gave them life, it's true
But we stepfathers gave our lives to them and to you.
Just remember we are grieving too
Maybe as much as you, yes it's true
Your tears may seem to come more frequently\
But ours come mostly in secrecy.
This is because we are grieving for two
Our child and yes a life anew
We have lost our wives and the life we once knew
It's unbelievable but unfortunately very true.
Just remember we love like you do
Deep in our hears and souls through and through
There is no "step" in a father's love
We are the guys God sent from above.

CJ

The day you were born,
I held you in my arms
I thanked God for his precious gift
given me you my ever loving son.
My tears rolled over my eyes thinking what
can I have more than you in this universe.
From that day onwards, I had only a short 5 year
before I had to go to heaven, But remember
I will watch you
growing up and you'll do well.
I care about you and love you CJ
And all I want you to do is
Be kind and generous to others
Be respectful and learn from older people
Be know the value of education
Be faithful to God and pray to him everyday.
Be honest to yourself
Be forthright at all times
I will be with you, I am always in your heart.
I will love you CJ with my heart and soul
your Daddy

 

CJ

The Prayer"

As John and his 5 year old son, CJ,
were headed to McDonald's one day,
they passed a car accident;
Usually when they saw something terrible like that,
they would say a prayer for those who might be hurt.
so John pointed and said to his son,
"We should pray"
From the back seat John heard his son's earnest request: Please god, don't let those cars block the entrance
to McDonalds"







When tomorrow starts without me,
And I'm not there to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today,
While thinking of the many things,
We didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too;
But when tomorrow starts without me,
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name,
And took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready,
In heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind
All those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye
For all my life, I'd always thought,
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for,
So much left yet to do,
It almost seemed impossible
That I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
The good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday,
Just even for a while,
I'd say good-bye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
That this could never be,
For emptiness and memories,
Would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
My heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home.
When God looked down and smiled at me,
From His great golden throne,
He said, "This is eternity,
And all I've promised you.
Today your life on earth is past,
But here life starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last,
And since each day's the same way
There's no longing for the past.
You have been so faithful,
So trusting and so true.
Though there were times you did some things
You knew you shouldn't do.
But you have been forgiven
And now at last you're free.
So won't you come and take my hand
And share my life with me?"
So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don't think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me,
I'm right here, in your heart.
They say memories are golden,
Well, maybe that is true;
We never wanted memories,
We only wanted you.
John,
A million times we needed you,
A million times we cried;
If love alone could have saved you,
You never would have died.
John
In life we loved you dearly,
In death we love you still;
In our hearts you hold a piece
No one could ever fill.
John
But now we know you want us
To mourn for you no more,
To remember the happy times
Life still has much in store.
John
Since you'll never be forgotten
we pledge to you today;
A hallowed place within our hearts
Is where you'll always stay.
John
If tears could build a stairway
And heartache make a lane;
I'd walk the path to heaven
And bring you back again.
John
Our family chain is broken,
and nothing seems the same;
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.




I had cancer called
squamous cell carcinoma
under my tongue which went into my neck
and vocial cords
Here is something to read about:

Squamous Cell Carcinoma
Squamous cells are the epithelium (tissue layer) that is the surface cells of much of the body. Skin and mucous membranes are squamous cells. This is the most common form of larynx cancer, accounting for over 90% of throat cancer. Squamous Cell Carcinoma is most likely to appear in males over 40 years of age with a history of heavy alcohol use coupled with smoking.
I was only 35 years old

 

The most common type of cancer of the tongue is called Squamous Cell Carcinoma. There are other types of cancers of the tongue but they are statistically uncommon. If you have questions about some of these more rare cancers, read more.
The tongue is actually divided into 2 separate anatomical areas, the oral tongue is the part you can "stick out" at somebody and extends backward to a V-shaped group of lumps on the back of the tongue which are actually specialized taste buds. The base of tongue is behind these. The oral tongue and the base of the tongue comprise the whole tongue but it is important to know that they develop from different embryonic tissue and really are somewhat dissimilar. Most importantly, this explains why the treatment for squamous cell carcinoma for the oral tongue is usually quite different from the treatment for squamous cell carcinoma of the base of tongue.
Squamous Cell Cancer of the oral tongue.
This tumor is usually located on the side, or what we call the lateral border, of the oral tongue. It is usually somewhat ulcerated and is grayish-pink to red in color. It will often bleed easily if bitten or touched. It is generally seen in the older age groups Smoking and drinking are known to contribute to the formation of the cancers, although some folks have developed squamous cancer of the tongue with no known extra risk factors.
Most very small cancers of the oral tongue can be quickly and successfully treated by surgical removal leaving behind little cosmetic or functional change. THIS IS NOT ALWAYS TRUE, HOWEVER, AS THERE CAN BE MANY VARIABLES AND FACTORS THAT CAN SERIOUSLY IMPACT SPEECH AND SWALLOWING. This can only be assessed by a face to face Surgeon/Patient meeting and examination.
Larger cancers may indeed have some effect on speech and on swallowing, but one must remember that not treating this problem would cause far more significant problems, up to, and including death. If one thinks about that for a moment; a few changes in speech or swallowing seem like a pretty good swap.
There is a school of thought that small oral tongue cancers can be better managed by radiation therapy alone, and this is indeed true in some cases, especially where the patient has serious heart and/or lung disease that might make anesthesia risky. Fortunately, this is a rare occurrence.
The main reason for treating small sqamous cancer of the oral tongue with surgery is that it is at least as curative as radiation, possibly better, it is over with quickly, oftentimes done as an out patient procedure instead of 5 - 6 weeks of daily therapy, it may be significantly less expensive, and finally, and most importantly, it means that if a patient were to later present with a 2nd or 3rd Squamous Cell Cancer of the mouth/throat/or voice box area, you would still have radiation therapy as a treatment option, perhaps then being able to avoid a significant and disfiguring operation. There is a limit as to how much radiation normal tissue can take before it dies.
Some cases of Oral Tongue Cancer can be treated with just removal of the primary tumor in the tongue. But as the size of the primary tumor increases the statistical possibility of some cancer cells spreading through lymphatic vessels to the lymph nodes of the neck increases. The site and pattern of the involved lymph nodes is pretty much constant --- that is to say we know where in the neck to look for enlarged lymph nodes that might contain metastatic cancer cells from the oral tongue cancer. Exceptions to these rules are sometimes seen, but they are uncommon. When the presence of enlarged lymph nodes in the neck is detected or when the index of suspicion is high that there may be cancer cells present in lymph nodes, then an operation called a neck dissection is performed to remove these "secondary" deposits of cancer. Remember, the oral tongue cancer is the "primary" tumor from where the spreading cells originate.
Finally, there may sometimes be the need to perform plastic surgery and/or reconstruction following removal of the tumor, and radiation treatments may have to be given after the surgery to try to minimize the possibility of recurrence of the disease and ultimate treatment failure. Yes, sometimes in spite of every effort, every bit of hard work, in spite of supportive care and even our prayers, some patients will be lost to this disease. It is a sad thing to have to watch and be a part of, but it is one of life's unpleasant realities. For now, we will have to content ourselves with the knowledge that most of our tongue cancer patients survive quite nicely and hope that new research and new discoveries in the future will allow us to help our patients even more.
Squamous Cell Cancer of the base of tongue
Like the oral tongue, the base of tongue (or posterior 1/3) can also grow several types of cancers, but again, squamous cell carcinoma is the most common and we will direct our comments with that in mind.Unlike oral tongue cancers, base of tongue squamous cell cancer is usually larger when diagnosed because in the early stages it can not be seen and it creates few, if any, symptoms. Later however, base of tongue cancer may create pain, a sense of fullness, changes in what the voice sounds like, and perhaps even some difficulty in swallowing. Also, because the diagnosis often comes a bit later, a greater number of patients with this disease will already have neck metastasis, that is, cancer cells in the lymph nodes of the neck, by the time they are seen by the Head and Neck Surgeon.
While it may technically feasible to surgically remove some base of tongue cancers, it is our opinion that most can and should be treated by radiotherapy. These tumors are arguably more sensitive to radiation treatment than some other cancers. Certainly, there are exceptions to this. Radiation therapy can also be used to control the cancer in the neck nodes as long as it is not too advanced. Interestingly, in those cases, we will sometimes remove massive neck node disease before starting radiation therapy when we know that x-ray therapy alone would not be successful in controlling the neck disease.
The prognosis after treatment of base of tongue cancer will vary from patient to patient as with any type of malignant disease. It has been our experience that the cure rate is good, but not quite as good as for early detected oral tongue cancer. The fact that base of tongue cancers are usually larger at the time of diagnosis probably is a significant contributing factor to this disparity. Very large base of tongue cancer may require a combination of surgery and radiation.
So think about all this
He had cancer at the age of 35 years old,
He battled it for only a year,
and He fought to the end.
He lost his tongue & voice box
in this battle in April 2006, and then 6
month later October18, 2006,
John pasted away.
God Bless you John

Please if you knew what John liked or loved please email me I need 
new things to put in his site thank you !!

CJ

I want you to know that I am so proud of you, And  on this Fathyou this Father's Day  you have a great time with  papa  give him a big hug and tell him thank you , also give grandma  a BIG KISS ! I miss you so much, But I am alway with you... I love you

Daddy 

Thank you for the balloons.

I still have them !